Why you should try something new today

  1. Trying something new takes courage. How wonderful to open a flood of courage and be carried on its waves to destinations of unexpected benefit.
  2. Trying something new opens up the possibility for you to enjoy something new. Entire life paths are carved out by people dipping their baby toes into small ponds and suddenly discovering a love for something they had no idea would capture their imaginations.
  3.  Trying something new keeps you from becoming bored. Even the most routine-loving people become bored if they aren’t continually challenged in some way.
  4. Trying something new forces you to grow. Growth seems to require we take new action first, whether it’s adopting a new attitude or a new way of thinking before we can try things we are fearful of each small step forward is a meaningful.
  5. Thrusting yourself into new situations often forces beneficial change.
  6. A spirit of constant self-challenge keeps you humble and open to new ideas that very well may be better than the ones you currently hold onto.

You never know if you never try. When was the last time you tried something new?

All of my work is based upon the Reflections of a Buddhist physician by Alex Lickerman M.D. You can find his works here on Psychology today




How to be more popular at parties and social gatherings

Tips for being popular at parties and social gatherings
Treat others how you would like to be treated
1. Remember others names
Calling someone by name and taking the time to remember a name in this busy society goes a long way in making lasting positive impressions on others. Science has proven that we remember things in three’s so I like to have three pathways set up to remember names.
  • First I makeup a rhyme like for Robert, Robert Bobert
  • I then connect Robert to someone I know “Robert is Becky’s husband” or “Robert like my Uncle Robert”
  • My final connection is made by saying the name back to Robert three times
  • “How are you Robert” “ Helen have you and Robert seen the latest movie?” “do you have any pets Robert?”
2. Ask open ended questions
People like to be listened to and some people are shy, avoid yes or no questions that block the flow of conversation and use open ended questions an example of an open-ended question is “what is your favorite restaurant and why?” an example of a question that blocks the flow of conversation would be “do you like food?”
3. Shift the Conversation from yourself to others to allow others to talk about themselves.
I used to be a nervous rambler and anytime I met someone I would nervously talk about myself, this lead me to knowing little about people that I met in life and always being left with a feeling of longing to see them again to ask more questions. I made it my mission to learn as much as possible about others and share as little as possible about myself unless of course I am asked and then I provide short concise answers, this way others are left wanting to learn more and you leave knowing a lot about your new social connections.
4. Use body language to show others you are interested in them
Making eye contact with others who are speaking and leaning in or mirroring others body language goes a long way in making others feel more comfortable and want to be around you. When making eye contact remember to look down then back up every few seconds so you don’t come across too intense. If you are speaking, make sure to use your eyes to engage with everyone fairly especially in groups of three.
5. Do not exclude others
Get togethers are for making friends and being social be mindful not to create circles that exclude other people from joining because you will miss out on building new relationships and may make others feel secluded or left out. Treat others how you yourself would like to be treated, chances are high that if you find yourself at the same get together as another person that you are likely to see them again so don’t be rude.

Never Be Rude                Always Be Polite


As Promised the worst party fails I have experienced
The first party fail happened at a wedding cocktail hour, a group of women who were long time girlfriends made a statement exclusively taking pictures together and getting other women to take the pictures while others awkwardly watched and felt left out.The girls should have made the energy more open by gathering everyone together to feel included and asking a wedding staff person to take the photo for a keepsake for the bride and groom of the special blend of friends.
The next party fail moment was at a get together where two women were clearly sitting next to one another texting to make fun of someone in the room, not sure if it was me but it felt like it because when people do rude things it makes everyone feel uncomfortable. Phone bullying is rude whether someone is trying to embarrass someone on an Instagram video or snapchat or people in the room are clearly texting each other and making fun of someone in the room the behavior is obvious and repels all good people who make life better while attracting all the people who are drama and make life worse.
The final party fail was where one woman had a low cut dress and had a wardrobe malfunction, instead of quietly pulling the woman aside this woman savagely yells across a table full of people that this woman is exposing herself, even if she was which she wasn’t you pull someone aside and quietly let them know they have a wardrobe malfunction or lipstick on their teeth, calling people out and embarrassing them is very rude and just makes the rude person seem jealous and petty.
The photo is from The Store on Queen Tea Party the owners of this Toronto store Vava and Angela also known as Hubby and Wifey are always the most fun women to party with.